Category: Family

I Am More Than My Rejections

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NaPoWriMo #24 A Cinquain

My lovely birthday gift from my kid sister. I adore it, and I will cherish it for many years to come. I can’t wait to drape myself in it later on this evening! Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt

I am
Who I will be
When I put my best self
Forward in everything I do
I am

Have you gotten your copy of my new book: a collection of serial tales & flash fiction, Séduire (E-Book and Paperback) yet?

I recently signed up to write on Substack as well. Poking the Bear’s Belly for Fun is a place of healing as I speak about the most recent events with my place of employment as it pertains to racism and discrimination. I welcome your visit.

**The Crush and I had another conversation post-my initial video sent to her of me shooting my shot. And the follow-up discussion was so I could gain clarity on some things and understand what was being said and what was NOT being said.

Sometimes I have to have things put to me very plainly so I can process them. It is always a gamble with anyone when approaching them with some form of keen interest, it is moreso a gamble while being bisexual and approaching a woman you love and have loved for over three years, nearly four, and crushed on for close to three years.

Needless to say, we will remain friends. She has never been attracted to women outside of simple admiration for them and respect for our overall physical beauty. And the last thing we need is for us to embark on a path toward a relationship, get involved, and a dude comes along who she’s MORE interested in, and then leaves me high and dry. Not good.

I’m still proud of myself. I did a thing I never thought I would do as it relates to her and my feelings for her.

But I won’t lie. It hurts. One day, it won’t, though. And that’s life. I am who I will be when I put my best self forward, in everything I do. I am.

throwback: an uphill battle

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NaPoWriMo #20 A Pictured Poem

an uphill battle. ©March 2016 Tremaine L. Loadholt

Have you gotten your copy of my new book: a collection of serial tales & flash fiction, Séduire (E-Book and Paperback) yet?

I recently signed up to write on Substack as well. Poking the Bear’s Belly for Fun is a place of healing as I speak about the most recent events with my place of employment as it pertains to racism and discrimination. I welcome your visit.

Photos From This Past Weekend

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Saturday morning capture: Basement flowers. Saturday, April 05, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
Saturday morning workout. Saturday, April 05, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
Caison hustling for the ball during his soccer game. Saturday, April 05, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
Just a little hustle toward the ball. Caison Michael. Saturday, April 05, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
Caison Michael: running down the field after scoring their team’s first goal! Saturday, April 5, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
A bit of hustle never hurts anyone. Lol. Saturday, April 5, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
THEY WON! 3-1. Good game! Saturday, April 05, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
I finished reading this book Sunday evening. It is a light read with an overall positive feel. I’ve reviewed it on both Amazon and Goodreads. Sunday, April 06, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
Oh nothing . . . when you drop 19 lbs, you can’t help but admire yourself. LOL. Sunday, April 06, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
Another breakfast photo of Zumi Tye. If Zuse isn’t eating, it’s sleeping. LOL! Sunday, April 06, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
The Birthday Girl had to nap after all the excitement of the birthday, which was one extra walk and a bit of playing with Mommy inside. Sunday, April 06, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
17 looks EXTREMELY good on her! The Birthday Girl once again while we were out for our Sunday morning walk. Sunday, April 06, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt
Sunday dinner: baked chicken, roasted Brussels sprouts, and chicken & herbs rice. Sunday, April 06, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt

Every weekend is a gift. I am enjoying each one as they’re handed down to me, and I look forward to them now so much more than before. I hope this week will be kind to all of you!

Have you gotten your copy of my new book: a collection of serial tales & flash fiction, Séduire (E-Book and Paperback) yet?

I recently signed up to write on Substack as well. Poking the Bear’s Belly for Fun is a place of healing as I speak about the most recent events with my place of employment as it pertains to racism and discrimination. I welcome your visit.

Peace and blessings!

Cousins

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NaPoWriMo #6 An Acrostic Poem

My Little Munchkin Man, Caison Michael, and me. Saturday, April 05, 2025. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt

carefree and happy in the glowing sun
our bond is an unbreakable one
united at every turn by blood and genes
safe in my arms – even as he ages
incredibly handsome – puts a smile on my face
never taken for granted
sure of his love for me — today and forevermore

Have you gotten your copy of my new book: a collection of serial tales & flash fiction, Séduire (E-Book and Paperback) yet?

I recently signed up to write on Substack as well. Poking the Bear’s Belly for Fun is a place of healing as I speak about the most recent events with my place of employment as it pertains to racism and discrimination. I welcome your visit.

Something To Think About #4

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Grief is a robber of happiness but not of life.

Christal Luster, on grief. Sunday, March 16, 2025. ©2025 YouTube

“It’s the one thing, I believe, that makes us human . . .
it makes us more compassionate if we let it.”

I will share “Something To Think About” for the next twelve weeks on Sunday afternoons. It may be a quote, a picture, an interesting phrase I heard, artwork, etc. Whatever I share will surely be intriguing or involving enough to spark a casual discussion or in-depth conversation. Stay tuned every Sunday for this feature!

Peace and blessings.

Have you gotten your copy of my new book: a collection of serial tales & flash fiction, Séduire (E-Book and Paperback) yet?

Left-handed in a Dream

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A Haibun

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She dreamt she was left-handed – sun tilting just right on her pale skin. Did it make her wise? Was she on a spiritual journey? Would she wake up left-handed? She hadn’t realized just how quickly life was flashing before her eyes. A race stood before her, but her legs were tired of running. The dream wouldn’t be the end of this conundrum. When your mother names you “Memory”, dreams are the last things on your mind.

right-handed she was
but left in a dream deferred
breaking past curses

An update on Jernee: Jernee’s vet visit was yesterday for the seizure she had last Sunday. They did blood work and did an overall checkup, too. Her vet said her left back paw has a delayed reflex response, which is a spinal cord issue and can be coming from her brain (possible growth or tumor). To determine what’s going on and confirm a growth or tumor, an MRI is recommended. The cost is expected to be anywhere from $3,000 to $5,000.00. This only confirms if there’s a growth or a tumor; this does not prevent the seizures, and neither would the medication if she is prescribed medication (it only stops the frequency of them and may make them milder).

For now (as per the vet’s request), I’ll monitor her, keep a seizure log, and if they happen more frequently and last longer, we can discuss end-of-life options. I am going to buy a camera and set it up in my living room, so there will be video coverage of Jernee while I am away at work. I want to make sure my baby isn’t having any seizures when I am not at home. And now . . . I miss working from home. *Sighs* Such is life and life still won’t defeat me.