Laughter Is STILL the Best Medicine

And the cure-all to what’s ailing me

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a date with antiques

attempted to hawk
my wares at one of
the antique spots not too
far from me.

a father & son duo–two
local fellas pimpin’ old
money into new money.
I ain’t mad at them.

I walked around the
hole-in-the-wall, snapped
photos of my favorites, and chit-chatted

with the son
who doted on one particular
piece, but was saddened to let
me go without an offer.

the first person I thought about
who’d love to wear holes
in this place’s carpeted
floors was Mama.

I can’t wait to introduce her
to our very own
Antiques Roadshow
and watch her lose her mind,
fretting about
ancient artifacts and dope pieces
neither of us can afford.


Have you gotten your copy of my new book: a collection of serial tales & flash fiction, Séduire (E-Book and Paperback) yet?

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8 Months and Counting

A free verse poem

Locs wash & interlocking day, ©2023 August 19. Photo Credit: Tremaine L. Loadholt

From the beginning, I’ve been happy about 
the choice I made to loc my hair, and I still am.

The journey is an interesting one, 
and I am learning more about 
myself and my hair with each passing day.

The beauty of going natural is 
watching various changes with the roots 
of my head and the blooming of my hair itself; 
it’s a wonder to witness.

How can something typically seen 
as dead be so alive?
As my cousin interlocked my hair and 
found difficult locs with which to fight, 
I smiled recognizing not only am I stubborn, 
but my hair is, too.

4 hours and 35 minutes later, I walked away 
with a clean head and a new style.

I cannot believe December of last year was
 the start of something special — 
the start of a new me — a changing me.

8 months later, the growth is on track 
with how I envisioned it would 
be around this time of year.

I am still eager to see what my hair will do, 
yet I am patient, too.
A blessed head knows its place 
and remains there.
I know myself more since I am following 
a path that allowed me to shift 
my life slightly — progress is our lane.

And the paths to the destination 
set for me are purposed for my excellence.
I am healing in a way that words 
cannot accurately describe.

And it all started with a
single strand of hair.


Originally published in A Cornered Gurl via Medium.

Boldly, She Creeps. She Creeps.

Musical Selection: Snoh Aalegra|Fool for You

A Free Verse Poem

Photo by Ashleigh via Pexels

and I am beholden to her,
bathed in a glossy light
of her intentions.
could she just be flirtatious — 
plotting on playing, picking
sides, and pursuing nothing?

I am cautious in her presence,
boldly, she creeps. she creeps.
and when she does, I stand aside
and mimic a child looking for
her lost toy.
I must find it.
it needs me.

I can’t figure her out.
I keep telling myself, “Tread
lightly. Watch yourself.
Be careful.” there could be
danger ahead.
I want this danger. I don’t want
this danger.
this danger is linked to her — 
I want her.

But I want to be safe too.

I hear an older church mother
in the back of my mind shouting,
“Pick your poison, baby. Can’t
have your cake and eat it
too!”
And I understand her words of
concern. I know the memory
of her will play on — she knew
what she was talking about.

Age and wisdom and experience.

I ask the dog, “Why me? Why
has she chosen me to
beat around the bush with
when I need consistency and
clarity and comfort?
women know what they’re
doing with their ways. they do.
keepers of lust and desire,

I will not pressure her.

I will remain in a lane
of my own making — happy
to gallivant effortlessly in
a world of her design.
I see what she cannot.
I hear what she cannot.

I do not want to damage
the goods she flaunts in
my direction.
boldly, she creeps. she creeps.
and when she does, I stand aside
and mimic a child looking for
her lost toy.
I must find it.
it needs me.

And I need her.


©2022 Tremaine L. Loadholt, Originally published in soliloque via Medium.

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Your Poem From Me Request #5

The Giving Cause: The Beauty of Friendship

I count my blessings . . .
I know the worth of
a strong foundation in
a friendship–one that stands
the tests of time–that outlasts
the bullshit that can build
up at a moment’s notice.

We can swim through anything;
come up for air, pace ourselves
against the waves, and find
the much-needed shore for rest.
I do not take it for granted–I’m
aware of my luck.

For how could I speak of
you in such high regard
without experiencing this
state of bliss?

Others have tried–some waltzed
in with their fake acceptances and
lack of sensitivity, and I know
their type now–I smell them
from miles away.
Trust me, I keep my distance.

At my age, the beauty of
friendship is a gift
that keeps on giving–a treasure
to be found each day.
We sparkle and shine and light
up this world with our presence.

And there is no way
I’m ever going to let this go–
to do so would be foolish.

I’m no fool.


Thank you to Kern Carter for allowing me to gift a poem to you. I really enjoyed writing this one.

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