I never want
to be so afraid
of living
that I
s t a y
with someone who
makes me
f e e l
like I’m dead
I know so many women who’ve found themselves in this predicament. They’ve stayed so long with their partner(s) they’ve forgotten how to live on their own and they’re willing to remain in that relationship, regardless of how they’re being treated because it’s all they know–it’s all they’ve allowed themselves to know. And the fear of failing outside of the relationship scares them more than dying within the relationship ever could.
I’ve had to leave a couple friendships because the toxicity of what they were used to seeped into the seams of who we were. It’s harmful. It’s hurtful. And it’s a hindrance on their lives and the lives of others. Sadly, no one can force them out of their situations. It’s something they have to find the strength and belief in themselves to do.It’s something they have to believe they’re worthy enough to do.
I can only stand by and love them as I know how. I can only support them in their efforts to become better as much as I can. But I’ve learned to remove myself from situations that are out of my control and I draw the line when I’ve noticed how hard one’s efforts can be especially when they’re ignored or avoided.
I can only wish them well when nothing else works and love them from afar.
Thank you, Kelley!
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trE,
Your poem is a wonderful, strong statement of self-love. I wish that all people knew how to love themselves.
It is impossible to understand how someone would make that choice unless you have lived through the circumstances. Sometimes it is a slippery slope, happening slowing over time, until one day you have become invisible even to yourself.
I hope your new job is going well.
Take care of yourself.
Ali
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Hello, Ali. Yes, thank you. I’ve been training rigorously remotely and am working from home. I love it so far and am blessed to have a position such as this one. Thank you for reading.
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Glad to hear you are home safe.
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Yes, ma’am. Thank you!
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So good. Definitely felt this post in its entirety. A must-share!
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Thank you, Kelley, for reading and connecting with it!
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Yep. At this age, I’ve been on both sides of that fence at this point. And….yep. Love love love but it’s REALLY ok to Love from afar. And as You state; at times necessary. ❤️
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Yes, ma’am. Thank you for reading.
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Always my pleasure, beautiful Tre! 💕
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☺️
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Yes, sometimes we can only wish people well and love them from afar. Ultimately, people have to help themselves.
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Yes, ma’am.
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💙
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Yes, I too believe in compassion and boundaries regardless of their choices. It is for them to make choices and find their capacities.
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It truly is. Thank you for reading, Pragal.
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Wow, so much insight.
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