#4. I am a dreamer but I believe in miracles
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These past few months, I have been dealing with my share of emotions springing forth unannounced and on most days, I am left feeling as though my tank is empty. I have to keep it full — fueled to its maximum capacity, so to speak, but it is hard.
This isn’t to say that I am not trying, I am. There are days harder than most and I find myself pulling strength and perseverance from the depths of my soul just to stay afloat. I am swimming. The pace at which I’m stroking in these tumultuous seas is a rapid one, but I refuse to drown.
Recently, I’ve lacked confidence, been incredibly hard on myself about little things, snapped at those I love, lost a few loved ones to a deadly virus, beaten myself up about my looks, weight, & overall personality, and cut ties with a few loved ones.
Let’s just say I haven’t been “living my best life,” and I am almost positive many of you reading this very article are probably feeling the same.
On my bad days, I feel hollow, as if I’m waiting to be carved and put on display for judging eyes and willful lips. I have to remind myself that I am a force and although my current demeanor isn’t one of which I’m familiar, I’m still in this skin struggling to break free.
Here are a few reasons why I’m not giving up on myself.
- I have a badass group of supportive people in my life. They keep me grounded, make me laugh, remind me of my best qualities, and share in my pain. They lift me up when I’m feeling down and aren’t afraid to pull me out of the dumps when I’ve dived in head-first. These are solid relationships — all have stood the tests of time. I can count on these people and for this, I’m grateful.
- There’s beauty all around me. I don’t have to go far to see the wonders of this world. A purple hue behind the clouds greets me in the morning. The sky is a set of open arms begging me to capture it. Trees speak in tongues and their leaves are the mothers of nature’s church. Birds sing glorious songs and the sun rises in a timely manner. I can look out my window and be reminded of all that’s beautiful in this world in an instant — that’s enough.
- I make people smile. My days aren’t all bad at work. I have so many patients who I make smile and bring joy to. They shower me with gifts and no matter how many times I attempt to reject them, they find a way to push through and give a little bit of their hearts to me. It’s breathtaking. Stop and smell the roses given to you while you still can.
- I am a dreamer but I believe in miracles. If allowed, I’d live in my dreams. You’d find me there doing what I love most at all times, away from anything that causes pain. But I can’t stay there. I know the importance of being in the now and trusting my faith. I believe. Wholeheartedly, I believe.
- I am keeping my close friends closer. They know me. They love me. They aren’t trying to change me. I can depend on them for listening ears and moments of their time. I don’t have to purchase or lease it. They’re readily available. They don’t make excuses and I don’t overwhelm them. They want to love me and they do.
- I don’t want anyone in my life who doesn’t wish to be here. I have toyed with the idea of making new friends, but people are WORK and currently, I don’t have the patience to deal with the extracurricular activity of bobbing and weaving through the hoops of people who want to be in my life one day, gone the next, then reappear as if nothing occurred. I am worth more than blinks and twitches. I know this. I embrace this. I want nothing less.
- I am a ball of energy who gets weak sometimes. But that doesn’t mean I am not strong. I can stand my ground and if necessary, I do. If I fall, I lift myself up and try again. A few scraped knees won’t stop me. I’ve had things break before and I’ve healed. I always heal.
- I am writing my way through the pain. The worst thing someone has said to me about my way of loving was, “I don’t need the way you love. I don’t want it.” And as much as they hurt or cut me deeply with that comment, I had to hear that. It enabled me to assess who I am in intimate relationships. I had been applying the same method of loving to everyone and people are different. It also made me realize that some people are just assholes too. I know which is which and now, I plan accordingly.
- When all else fails, enjoy the sunshine. Really, this has helped me more than I can express. There’s living in the rays of the sun. I try to get “outside time” daily.
- Every day, I am growing. I am not perfect and neither are you. I love who I am. I love who I am becoming. The work in changing is hard, but it is beneficial. I have value and I add value to the lives of those I love. I remind myself to remember this.
I look forward to the day when I can sit back and point out this moment in time where my struggles propelled me to change — where they caused me to do deeply-rooted work within me, and when I finally allowed myself to feel and believe I am not alone in growing and batting down the negative pangs of life.
If you feel the walls closing in on you as you endure these hectic times we are all trying to move through, I’d recommend changing your view of you. What motivates you? What keeps you happy? What do you like most about yourself? What do others love most about you? Take some time to remember you are a human being and life can be a bitch-slap out of nowhere. Be good to yourself. Be gentle to yourself. Be kind to yourself. There’s only one you.
I’ve made it to the point in my life where I stand firm on the following: I am not giving up on myself. I am worth the work, damn it!
And from me to you, you are too.
Originally published in P. S. I Love You via Medium.
As always, you’ve expressed yourself so eloquently.
The most important lessons in this post are “some people are just assholes” and “life can be a bitch-slap out of nowhere.” Haha. 😀
You are indeed strong and will come out the other side. Love you, Tre.
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Thank you, Mags! Haha!
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Thank You trE. Wish I had enough grammar to express the depth of my connection to this post, you speak for many, thank you♡
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Peace. Thank you so much for reading and leaving this comment. I hope your week and the weeks ahead will lend you peace and strength too.
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This is incredibly beautiful, TrE. Thank you for sharing what you did, your vulnerability and honesty is uplifting to me today! What especially stood out is you mentioning that you believe in miracles, and living into your dreams. From my heart to yours, TrE, keep going! Listening deeply to the vision of your heart is Self-honoring beyond what many people do. You are totally worth it and MORE. Blessings to you – and be in touch anytime if you want to. My email is weloveyou@forgivingconnects.com. Have a beautiful day!
Blessings,
Debbie
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Peace. Thank you, Debbie!
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This is SOOOOO wonderful Tre, and very helpful to many, I am certain! AND YES!!!! Damnit!!! You are absolutely Golden and more than worth the work!!! Sending You TONS of LOVE!!! ❤️❤️❤️
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Thank you! I send tight hugs your way! 💜
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My absolute pleasure! And Thank You!!! I send tight hugs right back to You! 💖💖💖
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You’re welcome!
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I love this! Yes I have been feeling this same way and I keep reminding myself that life is short. I don’t want to lose any valuable time. Have a great week my friend.
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Thank you! I hope you have a great week as well. I appreciate you reading!
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I agree with all your perspectives. Times have been hard and these reminders are important. I too believe in miracles, yet need support when I go weak.
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True. Very true. Thank you for reading, Pragal!
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A wonderful collection of reasons. Try to remember them all the time. Sending restorative hugs.
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Thank you! I’m doing my best, that’s for sure!
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We all get weak, and certainly none of us are perfect. Great post trE. Love and hugs to you!
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Thank you!
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This is lovely!
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Thank you!
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Oh! ma sis, i had also been down lately but i have resolved to keep my faith and hope in God especially in this new month of November. Keep a positive mind and smile through the storms knowing the God has you in His arms.
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Oh! ma sis, i had been so down lately but i have resolved to keep my faith and hope in God and also keep a positive mind in this month of November.
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That’s good! I’m glad you’ve been doing that!
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