Part III: Listening To My Surroundings
On my birthday, April 17, 2019, I had the opportunity to meet, spend time with, and enjoy the company of Crooked Little Flower in her neck of the woods. About two hours and thirty minutes away from me, but only about an hour from where I mini-vacationed, meeting Connie is sure to be one of the best things that has happened to me this year. Here is a woman I have known and loved for over three years on this platform and we have been close in proximity and had not met, but to scratch that one thing off of the to-do-list has filled my happy box with its much-needed ammunition. I basked in the beauty of nature near the place that she calls home and took in as much as I could of the sights, sounds, and tastes of the mountains.
I toured the studio where she creates her art and also shares it with the community. This place, not only is it the homestead of amazing artwork, it is a tranquil space where upon entering it, all that broke me down previously, faded from view. I could hear the voices of artists whispering to me, asking me to tread lightly and look at a space where thoughts, ideas, and heartwork come to life. I felt the presence of artistry and all that makes up a creative and what we have to do in order to maintain the abilities to continue to create. Not only was Connie welcoming to me, but she also opened up her door to my Little Monster too, Jernee, and she gave her sniff of approval of the studio and of Crooked Little Flower too.
Watching this little one romp about the space, learning her new surroundings, and trying to lay claim to every nook and cranny moved me to no end. Jernee does not know a stranger. Any place that we may visit, tour, or plan a brief stay seems as if it is mentally logged into her doggy brain and becomes one with her forever. She remembers every place we have been and it shows when we return as she gets excited, plops her tongue out, and races around those spaces and places with undeniable joy. I am taking cues from her as I watch her listen to these places. I am still in the learning process — it is taking time, but it is proving to be beneficial.
I could hear my therapist saying to me, “have fun, create new memories, and take what you need and leave the rest.” I did exactly that. I could feel the pressure in my chest breaking down a bit and suddenly, smiling felt natural again.
While listening and attempting to take in what I needed and leave what I did not, I could not stray away from the questions that have been plaguing me:
Why be overly sensitive?
What are you lacking?
What can you gain?
How can you be in a place so beautiful and still sense the ugliness of you?
And by ugliness, I mean — in my soul, in my heart. “We all have our demons” and how we deal with, struggle with, or overcome them is our personal testimony. There are a lot of things that I know I need to change and I also know that changing these things will take time. Taking the time that I needed away from my normal hustle and bustle was exactly what “the doctor ordered,” but in this case — what my therapist highly recommended. There will be shedding and as I continue to shed, I know there will also be more pain and tears and feelings of inadequacy and a bit of loneliness mixed in too and how I handle these emotions and various feelings as they come will dictate what I have learned.
For the next few weeks, I am making myself understand that although I am human and mistakes will be made, dwelling in the dark places does not have to be my end all, be all. I have more memories now to pull from and smile at on my down days. I have to thank nature, Connie, living to see another year, Jernee, and a few other remedies for that.
Only intermittent access to internet, so commenting late. Creativity is a great release of stress & helps one to forget oneself for a few hours.
You’re on a lovely journey!
Regards!
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Thank you! Welcome back.
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I enjoy reading about your journey. Know that you’re not alone.
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Thank you, homie. Very much.
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How wonderful that you and the Little Monster got to meet Connie. The place where she lives is indeed beautiful and peaceful. May you continue to make new memories that make your heart sing, Tre. 💛
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Thank you so much, my beautiful friend. I appreciate this.
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You’re always welcome, Tre.
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Nice read trE, great for Jernee too! 😀 XX
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Thank you, Ogden! Yes, it was. She enjoyed herself.
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*hugs* There’s beauty even in ugliness 🙂 And I’m happy that you shared photos of Connie’s art studio. Those are some lovely photos!
And of course, JERNEE!
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Thank you, Tien! Connie is a joy to be around!
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That was a super birthday present for you, and Jernee!
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It surely was. I had a great time!
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I love that you got to connect with another blogger, I have been trying (with no success) to do that as well, maybe someday we will be at the right place, the right time for that. Be happy he was open to a visit, was not too busy for you, or (God forbid) acted as if she hadn’t invited you there, only to turn you away. (This actually happened to me) Anyway, I’m glad you are taking the necessary steps to heal yourself. You deserve to be happy my friend! (And if you ever find yourself in Texas, come see me!!)
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Ahh. Thank you, Kim. I always build a line of communication with people before meeting in person. Really, it was like we’d already met and it’s been that way with each person I’ve met so far from Medium and WordPress. I am grateful for that.
Thank you.
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