The Inevitable
Today, I prepared my Living Will & Testament. I had been meaning to draft this up for years, started it, and never finished, but today–it is done. I have all of the necessary mentions, made one of my best friends the Executor and both she and my mom as primary and secondary beneficiaries. Why one of my best friends and not my mom? We have discussed this, my Mom and I. Should I go before her, she is not what one would call a stable person emotionally. She would be too overwhelmed with sadness and grief and probably not the one to execute things accordingly. As grim as death is, in the event of the death of your child, plans still have to be made, funeral arrangements need to be completed, the gathering of souls and notifying them as well must be carried out and well… to be frank, she would not be able to get this done.
My best friend, on the other hand, handles things efficiently and does so in a way that many cannot. Plus, it will not be her first time dealing with death and dying and head-mastering the arrangements. I hate tasking either of them with this, but it must be done. Although I am what most would call young in age, death does not care about that. When I am called by God, I will be called and age will be the last thing on God’s mind. While diligently compiling the list of belongings and making sure Jernee will be cared for and loved when I am gone, I became a bit emotional myself. To think of one’s own death is quite macabre, however, as I stated earlier, this is necessary. I have had a number of peers die “untimely deaths,” and I am certain there will be more. It is not my intention to leave my family wondering what my wishes are nor is it my intention to leave them solely responsible for funding my homegoing.
The nearly three-page document lacks nothing. I went through it with a fine-toothed comb and I am pleased with every item bullet-pointed, including the want to be cremated and have my ashes relegated to my mother who may do what she likes with them at her discretion. I requested a small funeral–family and close friends only. I do not see a reason to have a mass gathering for the purpose of me leaving this earth. The more people at this event, the more my mom and best friend will have to deal with and I intend for their burdens to be light. They will have enough on their plates. Should my Mom go before me, I am the Executor and her primary beneficiary and I will adhere to her wishes as she has laid them out for me. The same goes for my best friend. We talk about these matters, better to do so than not be somewhat prepared.
The only thing left to do now is to obtain signatures and get the Notary Public at my credit union to notarize the document. I will try to accomplish this in the next week or two. I can let out a sigh of relief because after the fall in the shower, nearly two years ago, the one thing bleating in the back of my mind like an untamed billygoat is, “you need a Living Will. Get it done, Tre.”
And now, it is.
Macabre yes, but so necessary (says the woman who doesn’t have one…) wow I have a lot to catch up on 😌
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Hello, my favorite Australian. It’s good to see you again. You take your time. 😊
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I don’t know how I missed this…Tre, as always, your heart is bigger than yourself… *Hugs*
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Hello, Tien. Thank you.
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Done! Well done, you! It’s the kindest act for those you love and may leave behind. I have both a living will and a last will and testament and these two documents have brought me peace of mind, in the hopes they do the same for those I care about.
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True. Very true, Jane. Thank you.
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My wife and I sorted ours out a few years ago now, and we have prepaid for funeral expenses. We have Enduring Powers of Attorney in place and have detailed plans for our funerals and afterwards, including a file of all passwords for computers/laptops/iPads/phones etc. A necessary thing to do!
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Yes, I have yet to do the passwords set up and information yet. I think that’ll take me a bit longer, but thankfully… It’ll be mainly to log on and shut things down. Thank you for this reminder, Peter!
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It feels good, doesn’t it? And Thank You!!! You just reminded me I need to update mine!!! May Yours not be used for a very long time as You are such a beautiful light on the planet!!! Cheers! 🤗💖☀️
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Thank you, Katy! I truly appreciate that. I hope it won’t have to be used anytime soon, that’s for sure. 😊
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Good for you for getting this done, Tre. (That reminds me that I should update mine, which was drawn up several years ago.)
Happy Sunday, my love. 💚
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Hello, my beautiful friend. Happy Sunday! Thank you. Ha! I knew you’d have yours done. 💙
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I’m that predictable, am I? 😉 Happy Monday!
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Oh, you’re just “Johnny on the spot.” That’s all. A very good thing.
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Nobody’s ever called me “Johnny on the spot” until now. Haha! 😁💚
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Boom! Look out now! There’s a first time for everything. 😊
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Mags, check your email when you can. 💙
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